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I have realised I mainly procrastinate because I am terrified. Terrified about what will happen on the other side of the activity. At the moment I’m procrastinating over my research. I love it but I know on the other side my life will be different I’ll be pursuing a new career I’ll be a new person. I’m also scared of doing the little things, like organising my space, because then I’ll be organised I’ll have time, and then I have to do my life.

Humans are funny creatures sometimes; they want to do the thing but upset if they don’t do the thing but scared to do the thing 😂. One of my most favourite people says it’s a battle between your human self and soul self and I like that. When I say that to myself when I’m stuck it makes me determined to let the soul self win!

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I love this too. I totally get that terror thing. I'm in the middle of a big thing at the moment and I just need to keep going and being brave but when I'm knackered (or hungry) I falter. Let the soul selves win - yes!!!!

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Yes to the soul self! Love this 🖤🦋

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Such a huge one for me too. Yesterday I gave myself a power hour to get through the tasks that were taking up a LOT of headspace…you never regret doing the thing xo

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Yes, I love the power hour!!! Actually that's a great idea! I wonder if we can do a power hour in our community? Nothing like it!

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So love this. Thank you Antonia x

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I realised a distinct correlation between overdoing it and procrastinating last year. It took me a little bit of coaching/therapy to move through but the plug was pulled and I haven’t done it since.

Can relate so much to the fear of what’s on the other side so much though. I had so much of that the other year, it triggered a 2nd health relapse.

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Yes, I think that's very important - what is overdoing and what is procrastinating? How do you decide?

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Overdoing for it for me last year was slogging it out on my hay house book proposal because there was a deadline and it was a huge project. On the last day I worked 7am to midnight - I couldn’t pull that off in my corporate days never mind post chronic illness. I was left depleted physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually after this stint (plus big life stuff to throw into the mix at the same time). Procrastination following looked like me not being able to do any work on my book at all because of how depleted my energetic resources had been - it put me off. Though it took for my boyf to hold the mirror up for me to see that because it was a blind spot to me at the time.

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All three of your reasons are so familiar to me. Your words had me consider relationships between neurotypicality/neurodiversity and procrastination.

As a family with many with ADHD plus PDA and a longer list, faltering can look like procrastination but scratch it a wee bit to discover anxiety or overload and more. I’ve been rethinking my mothering around helping support children around procrastination as well as considering my own!

Thanks Suzy for your super prompts. 🙏🏻

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Yes, throw neurodiversity into the mix and there may be other techniques and support available.

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All 3 reasons for Procrastinating apply. Usually I move on because there's a dead line and I wonder why I procrastinated in the first place. 3. Is the current issue...and solution 2 and 3 would both be possible. I haven't got time to wait or I'll be dead!

Nike...just do it.

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yes! let's do it!

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