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Thank you for this moving piece Suzy. We are not alone in our struggles. And the more we talk about what’s truly going on inside, the less alone we and others feel ❤️

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Yes, absolutely. When we take off our masks, we can gently support each other. xxx

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This question hit me right in the guts. Thank you.

I can't write about it now but it's going to be wandering through my brain all day.

Thank you. X

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Much love x

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I'm so sorry for your loss Suzy.

After some shock for me, I remember having to tell myself to breathe. I would need long periods of quiet just sitting. I cried lots. I would have to remind myself also, that the sun would rise the next day. And lots of talking to God.

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Thank you, Val. Breathing, crying and taking to God. That sounds like a beautiful way to find a way to walk again. Thank you for sharing.

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Humans are so resilient. Sharing in this way helps. Thank you :-)

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Yes, I agree. So resilient but more resilient when we have a hand to hold. x

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Yes, it absolutely does help a lot.

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Thank you for this beautiful writing. I can't write about it all at this time, but after burying my mother, some of my siblings’ behaviours turned ugly. Not having yet come to terms with that loss and aggravation from the siblings, my daughter died last year in June suddenly and unexpectedly, while she was at work.

I can't even take my first step as I am groping in the abyss for now. I push myself to write and then fall backwards.

I am going to ponder over your question. 💔

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What an unimaginable loss and life shock. We are with you, beside you. Seek out those who have suffered like you and let them stand beside you, holding a light. Sending you the biggest hug.

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Thank you so much. It helps a lot when one is able to share and you all are so compassionate.

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Deepest condolences to you. Take your time to assimilate. That is so much to deal with. Your feelings and expression of them seem perfectly reasonable.

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Thank you. It is a pain like no other loss. Especially when my daughter was not sick, and at work and shortly after lunch, she just dropped on her work desk. I struggle with that a lot. I pray a lot. Its like being on the tidal waves each day.

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❤️

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'We move,' As my 20-something says. And some days a small movement is a huge achievement. ❤️

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I love this. 'We move' . That will be my mantra for today. x

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My heart opened up to you when you spoke about loosing your parents… sometimes it’s not easy, and I too ache for me, for you, for all of us. I lost my partner to suicide, my brother unexpectedly two years ago and my sister ghosted us all after we buried our mum…. I’ve been in recovery for 23 years and what I’ve learned to do is to ask universe/hp/god/angels to grant me patience with the changes taking time, appreciation of all I have, and the strength to get up and try again one day at a time…

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Yes, dear Annie. I'm so so sorry to hear about your losses. But here you are, leading from the front, inspiring and healing all at the same time.

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Thank you for your kind, heartfelt words, so much appreciation and gratitude. 🙏

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Breathe, cry, finding calm in nature, remind myself that there is a life to be lived even with grief - yes it is so very hard, but finding ways to ease the pain and sorrow

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Thank you for your beautiful written reminders. I don’t usually need them, but I return to work tomorrow after a few days off which I spent loving my own family and friends.

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Much love. x

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